Thank you all whom have shared your stories and resources on the video I posted of my mom speaking up about how she felt being adopted.
I really didn’t know too much about this feeling and I posted it because a young woman I follow spoke up about it and asked if anyone had something similar. I remembered having shot this of my mom, so I mostly did it for her. WOW, i never expected it to get such feedback. It breaks my heart to know so many people have this feeling and so many have been misunderstood about it.
I would LOVE for more awareness to be shared surrounding this… so I am compelling some of the resources shared.
This BOOK seems to capture all the information regarding this wound. The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child", by Nancy Verrier, Amazon link here
This is a BOOK for parenting a teenager who was adopted. “ Parenting in the Eye of the Storm by Katie Naftziger” Amazon link here
Here are a couple of Websites that have a lot of information on this wound. Which is identified as “Relinquish trauma”
https://mariedolfi.com/adoption-resource/relinquishment-trauma-the-forgotten-trauma/
a website that gives “Trauma-Informed Care: Resources and Information” particularly for kids: https://www.theannainstitute.org/TIC-RESOURCES.html
AND a YouTube video on “Adoption and Addiction” by Paul Sunderland. it is about an hr long, but you can change the speed where the setting are:-) Click here
And the biggest takeaway I got from these resources for both the adoptee’s parents and those who were put up for adoption is:
You need to feel the depth of the void, of that feeling, parents need to hold a safe space for the one experiencing it with compassion and understanding. It is NOT a personal attack it is a psychological trauma that needs to be felt as it can be healed.
If a person is an adult now, there is something called “INNER CHILD” work… here is a great article on it. We need to “Re-parent” at times, so if you are an adult with this wound you may need to look into creating a safe space to allow that healing to occur as if you were the parent.
I hope this all helps and if you have more suggestions on resources.. please comment below.